what self care REALLY is...

A while back - maybe earlier this year, maybe before that - I started to notice is that there seems to be some confusion about what self care really is.

Self care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health.

It's as simple as that, which means it doesn't have to be complicated or expensive, and it doesn't have to look a certain way.

(The paragraph above that's in bold is a definition I came across in a pdf put out by the Student Affairs department at the University of Kentucky.)

Self-care will vary from person to person - and for any one person, it will be different at different times.

Self care can mean being mindful of your diet, getting some exercise, getting enough sleep. It can be going to a meet-up on a favorite topic or spending time at a church service.

It can be cuddling with a special person or pet, listening to music, taking a long hot shower, relaxing in a candle-lit room, dancing for a few minutes in your kitchen, going to a spa, painting your nails, getting your hands dirty in the soil.

It can be sitting on a beach, or under a tree, or on the floor of your bedroom as you read a book or color a mandala.

Subtle Harmony self care

The list is endless. It can be any or all of those things - and so much more.

And some things for self care involve money...

But there are so many self-care practices and activities that do not.

Self-care is caring for YOU. It's doing something that tends to you and what you need (on any/all levels - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually).

And there's no shame involved in caring for and tending to yourself.

No one can give from an empty well, no one can run on fumes, no one can be a constant light without burning out.

Self care doesn't have to be hard.

It doesn't have to be luxurious.

It doesn't have to take loads of time.

Self care can be as simple as pausing throughout your day, relaxing your shoulders, and taking a few breaths.

Self care is anything that involves "any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health."

That's what self care really is.

Are you up for a challenge?

Join the FREE challenge - 15 For Me - to challenge yourself to spend 15 minutes a day, for 15 days, just on YOU, your self care, your soul nourishment, your connection to JOY.

You can find out all about it and sign up (for free) by going here.

I hope you'll join the challenge - doing it for you.


the chakra "I" mantras...

chakra I mantras

Your seven major chakras impact all areas of your life... and there are mantras that relate to each of the chakras.

One kind of chakra mantra is the "I" mantra, a phrase that begins with the word "I" followed by a verb about one the things that specific chakra does or is about in your life.

What are these "I" mantras?

The first chakra, the root or base chakra, is related to the physical needs of survival in this lifetime, feelings of security and stability, and the element of Earth. This chakra is about BE-ing here in this lifetime, in this time, in this place called earth.

I AM is a mantra for the root chakra.

The second chakra, the sacral chakra, is related to creativity, close relationships, emotions, and the element of Water. This chakra is (among other things) about FEELING what you feel.

I FEEL is a mantra for the sacral chakra.

The third chakra, the solar plexus chakra, is about personal power, individuation, confidence, determination, and the element of Fire. This chakra is related to taking action and DOING.

I DO is a mantra for the sacral chakra.

The fourth chakra, the heart chakra, is about love of all kinds, compassion, and healing. This chakra really is so much about love on all levels - love for others, love of self, universal love.

I LOVE is a mantra for the heart chakra.

The fifth chakra, the throat chakra, is about communication in all ways, self-expression in all ways, authenticity, and expressing your creativity. This chakra is about SPEAKING - speaking with others, listening to others speak, speaking your truth, speaking your creativity. (Even if these things don't involve literally, physically speaking.)

I SPEAK is a mantra for the throat chakra.

The sixth chakra, the third-eye or brow chakra, is related to intuition, inner vision, inner knowing, and the imagination. This chakra is about SEEING, in all the various ways and forms that means.

I SEE is a mantra for the third-eye chakra.

The seventh chakra, the crown chakra, is related to spirituality, enlightenment, connection to the higher self and to the All. This chakra is about knowing and understanding, in the universal and enlightened and spiritual sense.

I KNOW is a mantra for the crown chakra.

(I UNDERSTAND is another mantra for this chakra.)

There's much more (MUCH more!) to what each of the seven major chakras is about, corresponds to, and connects with. But these are some of the basics for each.

And these are some of the chakra "I" mantras.

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you are not 'too' anything...

For many people (and I'm including myself in this category), there's been some hard stuff going on lately.

With hard stuff - and good stuff too, actually - there can come big feelings, lots of emotion, some expressing-out or drawing-in.

Sometimes, when this happens, others might call you too sensitive.

Or too emotional.

Or too dramatic.


But know this:

It is okay to feel what you feel and be who you are.

Let me say that again...

It is okay to feel what you feel and be who you are.

You are not 'too' anything - even if some people might try to tell you otherwise.

And part of self-care, part of loving and caring for you, is honoring your feelings and your expressions and your truth and your edges.

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